An inspirational friend of mine has been sending me daily emails with his writing. His August life experiment is to write everyday & I’m holding him accountable by being his audience. It has been great because he is a great writer & I have learned a lot from what he has shared. A week ago he sent an email titled “Fave Five”…mentioning T-mobile’s old ad campaign asking “Who’s in your Fave Five?” because those five people are people you can call for free, without using any minutes.
Then he challenged the audience (me) to identify my “Fave Five” & taking a step further to answer,
Who do you spend the most time with?
Are they people who are helping you or hurting you?
This question was a bit more challenging for me to answer. I had to look at it on an individual basis for the most part. How do you know if someone is helping you or hurting you? I started to think about what that meant & came up with a few factors that helped me better identify which category people fell into…
- Confidence - people that are helping me are boosting my confidence…people who are hurting me are tearing it down.
- Honest – people that are helping me are honest to me, about me…people who are hurting me are not.
- Positive – people that are helping me are generally positive people. Smiles are contagious. so is negativity.
More importantly than those three factors, my mom’s definition for a true friend I think hits the nail on the head…”when you walk into a room, a true friend likes you just the way you are & has no plans for your improvement.” Those are the types of people that are truly friends, bringing me up, & helping me. Of course, self improvement is a great thing & some of my best friends help me become a better person…but they still like me for who I am today.
Who’s in your Fave Five? Want to make any changes?
mel, the venture gal